What if

What if

What do you believe happens when you die? I know what I believe, but what if I am wrong? What if my belief about dying is so incorrect that it leaves me embarrassed at the time of death? The problem about dying is that it is usually a one- way journey. From a...
Dying

Dying

We will all die differently. For each of us the circumstances of our death – the surroundings, the timing and the people with us when we die – will be unique. The process of dying is often quite predictable. Understanding this process is important because it may help...
The Wall

The Wall

I was speaking to a friend who has incurable lung cancer. He commented that no matter how positive he tries to be, his doctors are usually negative. He would comment” I am going to beat this “ and they would either not respond or respond by denying this possibility...
The game of life

The game of life

I often have to break bad news and tell someone that they have an incurable illness. These discussions are often awkward and heavy with unexpressed emotion. There are the unspoken words and the unasked questions. Occasionally someone will hesitantly ask” How much time...
The forbidden topic

The forbidden topic

I had the opportunity to speak to a prostate cancer support group in the week and as part of my discussion brought up the topic of death and dying. It is not unreasonable to discuss palliative treatment in the setting of advanced cancer or even terminal care, but...
The art of listening

The art of listening

One of the difficult things I have had to do in the past few weeks is decide about the benefits of dying to understand. It is one thing to have a website that encourages discussion about dying but does anyone care?In a group discussion on linked-in I asked a number of...