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What if

What do you believe happens when you die?I know what I believe, but what if I am wrong? What if my belief about dying is so incorrect that it leaves me embarrassed at the time of death?The problem about dying is that it is usually a one- way journey. From a scientific...

Dying

We will all die differently. For each of us the circumstances of our death – the surroundings, the timing and the people with us when we die – will be unique. The process of dying is often quite predictable. Understanding this process is important because it may help...

The Wall

I was speaking to a friend who has incurable lung cancer. He commented that no matter how positive he tries to be, his doctors are usually negative. He would comment” I am going to beat this “ and they would either not respond or respond by denying this possibility...

The game of life

I often have to break bad news and tell someone that they have an incurable illness. These discussions are often awkward and heavy with unexpressed emotion. There are the unspoken words and the unasked questions. Occasionally someone will hesitantly ask” How much time...

The forbidden topic

I had the opportunity to speak to a prostate cancer support group in the week and as part of my discussion brought up the topic of death and dying. It is not unreasonable to discuss palliative treatment in the setting of advanced cancer or even terminal care, but...

The art of listening

One of the difficult things I have had to do in the past few weeks is decide about the benefits of dying to understand. It is one thing to have a website that encourages discussion about dying but does anyone care?In a group discussion on linked-in I asked a number of...

Don’t be average

Last year was the hottest on record in Australia with temperatures soaring into the 40’s and the discomfort factor hitting “unbearable” for those without air-conditioning. Last week the movies were overflowing as people opted for a refreshing air-conditioned...

Future change

You may have heard the well- known story about a frog in hot water. Apparently if you put a frog in a pot of regular water and slowly warm it up, the frog will slowly adapt to the change in temperature and eventually perish when the temperature rises beyond bearable....

Disappointments

We all have disappointments in life and to tell the truth they are painful and unpleasant. Not winning first prize, not being awarded a gold medal and not securing the perfect job are all examples of disappointments. Disappointments can be very bitter and enduring....

Asking for directions

Have you ever got lost? I recently managed to get well and truly lost using satellite navigation and following Susan’s mechanical voice. With confidence Susan took me from “the known” to the “very unknown” parts of Brisbane. I realised that my canned journey had come...

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